Surviving Glenda with an Attitude of Gratitude

Surviving Glenda with an Attitude of Gratitude

All praises to God that I am actually writing this. The past three days was all about a test of faith. And I’ve held on, as always. God is merciful and faithful all the time.

As early as 4:00 PM, July 15, we have been preparing for the onslaught that Glenda would bring. I was on the phone with my mother who is alone in Mindoro. The storm signal was up at #2. I was checking her emergency kit: food, water, flashlight, extra batteries, her meds, fully charged cell phone…

At around 6:00 PM, I was assured she was going to be okay. My family had dinner early, and settled in to watch the updates on TV. At 11:00 PM, I started to hear the wind pick up in intensity. I already knew at that time that Bicol was getting a beating. At 12 midnight, I texted my mother once again just to check in on her before I go to bed, and was surprised to receive a response. I wanted her to be asleep, but she was too worried to rest.

1:00 AM
It’s been pouring, and the wind was starting to scare me. We did a check around the house and noticed that the water was seeping in through the windows in our upstairs bedroom. We had some rags out and started to mop out water. Hubby brought a basin upstairs to collect water. After a half hour, the leak seemed to have been contained.

1:30 AM
Hubby asked if I was going to bed. Told him I was still on an adrenaline rush. I’d stay up and watch the news. He said he’d take a nap, and to wake him up at 2:00 AM to check again on the windows.

2:00 AM
I did my routine check upstairs and noticed that the water was coming in faster. I did what I could to keep the water from completely flooding the room, using more rags, frantically wringing out water into the basin. After I have collected about a couple of gallons, I took out more rags, positioned them like a barrier in a semi circular fashion to protect the rest of the room from getting wet. By this time, water was also coming in through the sliding doors leading to the terrace.

2:30 AM
I went down to my office and saw that water has been coming in through the windows, as well. I got more rags to mop out water from there, too, and another basin for water collection.

3:00 AM
The power went off. I finally decided that it was time to wake up the hubby. I could no longer contain the water coming in from both the upstairs bedroom and the office downstairs. The wind outside sounded like a pitiful cry of an old woman. A wailing that asks for mercy. The downpour was relentless. I’ve been praying non-stop. Praying that the storm would pass quickly. Praying for the elderly neighbour who was alone just right across the street. There was no sign that he was even awake. Not a glimmer of light coming from the direction of his house. I hoped that he remembered to close his upstairs windows. They’ve always been open.

4:00 AM
I was upstairs, while the hubby took care of the water downstairs. We did our best trying to contain the water. But the wind just kept on getting stronger. I started to hear the roof being torn at the upstairs bedroom. I kept praying that I was just hearing things. That it was actually not our roof, but just the sound of the wind. But the banging was too close, too real for comfort. I uttered a prayer for it to hold. My mind was moving forward to how we would secure the kids should the ceiling cave in.

I was feeling so tired. While I continue to mop, wring, mop, wring, mop, wring. I’ve lost count of the number of trips I had to the upstairs bathroom, disposing of water I collected. I continued to pray. I focused on how we are still dry, thinking of the people who were in worse condition than we were. I offered a prayer for them. I could only imagine how it would feel to be wet and scared in the dark. But I was feeling tired, I was starting to lose sensation in my hands. They were numb from being in the water for so long already, and my calloused palms could feel the punishment of the non-stop rag-wringing. It was nearly the time that my eldest daughter would be due to wake up on a regular school day. So I asked hubby if we could wake her up and ask her to help. The perimeter I have built upstairs was getting bigger. The water was reaching almost the middle of the room already, and I could no longer swing from the windows to the sliding doors as agilely as I did earlier. We needed more hands.

5:00 AM
Xia had been with us for an hour, and I felt sorry for her. I kept saying, “I’m sorry baby, we had to wake you up.” And she would just reply, “You should have called me earlier. I could have helped earlier.” That’s my sweet child. She took responsibility of the windows, while I continued to man the sliding doors. Hubby remained downstairs in my office. I wanted him down there to also watch the water level on the street. My office also has sliding doors, but thankfully, the direction of the wind spared it from the onslaught. The banging of the torn roof was deafening, and I kept on looking up the ceiling. Afraid that the water build up inside would cause it to cave in. I asked Xia to pray with me, that the ceiling would hold. And that the storm would leave already. Flying debris had started to build up on the terrace, and they were now clogging the drain. Water was building up, and if it continues, there was no way we could stop the water from coming in, and it would definitely flood the whole room, down the stairs, to the rest of the house. We could not even open the sliding doors, let alone go out and clear the drain, as the wind goes smack dab to us. We tried to open it an inch, and we were soaked in seconds.

5:30 AM
Bea and Jude were up, and I asked hubby if it’s okay to have them help also. I had Bea help Xia, and hubby gave instructions to Jude on how he should watch over the water level on the terrace. It was getting light. We could now see outside, and praises to God, the wind somehow changed directions. It was now going north, instead of going east, as it had been all night. I noticed the water was no longer coming in as fast as before. And the howling of the wind was not as bad. The storm was finally starting to show signs of weakening. Or may just be leaving our area to go wreak havoc somewhere else.

This video was taken at 5:42 AM. Its strength now just about half of how it was between 3:00 AM and 4:00 AM.

I continued to encourage the kids to say prayers of gratitude. I kept saying: “Let’s be thankful that we still have the roof attached, that we are dry, that we are together.” And Jude went on with his litany of questions: When was your last experience of a storm this strong? When was the first time you experienced a flood? What was the date? Where were you? Who was with you?

6:00 AM
There was a yelp from the hubby downstairs. The area where the stove is at the kitchen was suddenly flooded. The kitchen is facing south. With the wind now going north, the water is now coming in through the kitchen windows. The water had started to get into the kitchen cabinets below the counter, so the cavalry from upstairs were called down. The space leading to the laundry area, although covered, was also semi flooded, and all the shoes we have there were now soaking wet.

6:30 AM
I declared that we need to have breakfast. As part of our preparation for Glenda, we had pan de sal for breakfast bought the previous day. We badly needed coffee, but because the power has been off, the coffee maker was of no use. Hubby has never been the instant coffee type, so he boiled water on the gas stove, measured coffee into the filter, and poured boiling water into the coffee maker. Brewed coffee, the Aberásturi way.

7:00 AM
It was down to a light rain, so we went out to survey the damage in the perimeter. Our roof was definitely partially torn and folded. Our neighbour fronting the main road had water in their house nearly knee-deep. They had to bore a hole on their wall to get the water out. The neighbor obliquely to our left across the village road had their roof on the west part of the house completely torn off. We could see them taking out furniture and mattress to dry. I offered a silent prayer for them again.

7:30 AM
I’ve made calls to our go-to guy for carpentry work, and the guy who contracted the installation of our roof. Both were good enough to say they’d come by after lunch. They, too, have been badly affected and they needed to put some order in their respective houses first.

7:45 AM
I went to lie down for a while. Just a few minutes, I said. I just need to get over the shaking. I didn’t notice it during the height of the typhoon. In my mind, I was calm, but my body was now telling me otherwise. I couldn’t stop shaking.

10:30 AM
I was awakened by Jude’s frantic whispering in my ear. “Mommy, the Pentagon is submerged in water.” Whoa! What? Where are we? Pentagon?

Then I realized that he was talking about his project outside. He built his own version of the Pentagon using real cement. He said he’s going to be a construction engineer when he grows up, so he’s been mixing cement and building structures using molds that he himself made.
Jude's Structures

Then there was a phone call. The kids, resilient as they are, have been playing in the living room, reliving the excitement from the wee hours of the morning. The caller was my brother in the US. He’s always watching the news on TFC, and he wanted to know how we were. Connection was bad, so all I could tell him was we were okay, although the roof was damaged. I asked that if he was going to call our mother, not to tell her what happened to us. I didn’t want her to worry.

As they promised, the guys I called for help arrived after lunch. Lunch for us was rice, cooked over the stove, and scrambled eggs. That was all we could manage to prepare. No energy to prepare something else.

A temporary fix was made on the roof. They’ll be needing electricity to fix the rivets, so they’ll come back as soon as the power is back. They also dried down the water inside the ceiling. We are so blessed that the only casualty was one pillow, which was left on the part of the room where the water from the ceiling dripped.

At 12:30 PM, I sent a text message to my client that I’d be off the grid for a while, not really elaborating on what happened. He must be watching the news anyway. He always does.

We spent the afternoon clearing up debris on the street in front of us and getting back the upstairs bedroom in order. I rinsed the pile of rags that we used, belatedly realizing that they were not all rags. There were four pieces of hubby’s t-shirts in the mix. He must have gotten them from the laundry basket when he needed more rags. Although the sun was up, there was still a bit of a shower.

My phone was already supported by the power bank. I have subscription to three network providers, but only one has a signal by afternoon.

That night, the kids and I tried to put in a little school time by sharing with each other random thoughts that came to mind while the storm was going on. The hubby shared his thoughts to be: Which window will be next?

I was feeling feverish. I was in pain. Somehow, I managed to stub my thumb on something, leaving it with an open cut. I started to notice the pain toward the afternoon. At that time, my right thumb was already swollen and I could feel the throbbing pain. I also noticed that going up and down the stairs was painful on my thighs and legs. By evening, I could not walk straight. The pain on my thumb reminded me of my pain when I gave birth to Bea; 15 hours of painful labor that left me hallucinating. I was feeling the sweat at the back of my neck, and yet, I was shivering with cold. I must have an infection already.

Dinner was by candlelight, and we found ourselves playing with shadows. It was a lively meal, as usual. The only difference was the lack of light.

Bedtime came earlier than usual. There was nothing else we could do, except pray that there would be power the next day. I asked the kids to also offer a prayer for those who were hit worse than we were.  At this time, my most fervent prayer was that my client would understand.

July 17
Xia got ready for school, and hubby took her as usual, only to find out that classes remained suspended. No cell phone, no internet, no TV, no radio. We were clueless as to what had been happening outside the four corners of our home. It was the first time that hubby drove to the town proper after the storm passed, and it was only then that he had a glimpse of the extent of the damage that Glenda left. He saw fire trucks distributing water in the barangays. In our municipality, only the poblacion gets water from the municipal water system. All the other barangays have each their own water cooperatives. Without electricity, water supply is cut, because all these water tanks were powered by motorized pumps. In our barangay, there is no cooperative. So each house has its own deep well. We are fortunate that we had the foresight to have made our pump detachable from the motor so we could actually manually pump water should there be a power outage. Hubby and his little assistant were in charge of our water supply.

July 18
I was feeling good enough to go out. My thumb was still swollen, but the pain was more manageable. I thank God for making me ambidextrous. Losing dexterity in my right hand has not been much of a concern.

We went to the city to buy more supplies. The road to the city was a scene of utter devastation. We passed big trunks of uprooted trees, dropwires hanging limp in the middle of the road, debris all over, and a long queue of people lining up for water. They were waiting for the fire trucks for their water supply. We also passed at least three cellphone charging stations, the entrepreneurial spirit very much alive in the aftermath of a storm. Along the zigzag road, we passed by a police car, a funeral car, an ambulance with a stretcher on the side of the road with people milling about. We slowed down to ask one of the men near the ravine what the crowd was about. He said a body has been found down the ravine. Such is a usual occurrence on that part of the road. Either that body was of a murder victim, or someone who was swept away by the river’s current. I’d bet on the first.

Today, July 19
We finally have power back on, but no internet service still. I typed this blog entry from a handwritten note, so I could simply copy and paste when connectivity is restored.

It’s raining again, and there is a slight wind. I know I’ll never feel the same about rain ever again. The trauma will stay with me for a long, long time.

Another prayer… I hope that I still have a job to go back to. It’s the first time I’ve ever taken a vacation, if you can call it that. With me as the breadwinner now, the worry will always stay with me. So my goals for this year are being rewritten now. I think it’s time I invested on a portable power generator, and then a solar panel.

It’s My Birthday, And I’m Grateful!

It’s My Birthday, And I’m Grateful!

For the blessed life I have lived, and living.

For all the wonderful people I’m sharing this happy life with.  Family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances.

For the blessings that abound each and everyday.  From waking up in the morning, to gracefully overcoming challenges that are being presented each day.

For the awesome opportunities that continually pour in.  Meeting and making new friends, learning new things, accomplishing goals.

For all of these,  I am grateful.

I am grateful, even, for all the negative people who come into my life, as they add flavor to the nuances of living.

For the rejections we have experienced.

For people who take advantage.

And those who try to pull me down.

Today, as I celebrate the beginning of yet another chapter of my life, I want to make a random list of things that are testimonies of God’s faithfulness.  I’ll type them as they come to mind.  So here it goes:

  1. Waking up each morning.
  2. Waking up with the arms of my little boy around my neck.
  3. My own home office.
  4. Seeing my first love again after 7 long years. My brother.
  5. Finally meeting my youngest nephew, Anthony.
  6. Seeing Angelo again.
  7. Setting foot in Boracay.
  8. Having a job I truly enjoy.
  9. Having a wonderful client.
  10. Finding a church.
  11. Having an awesome business partner.
  12. Being  true friends with the same business partner.
  13. Seeing an old friend again, and having him teach my eldest baby guitar.
  14. My eldest child finally learning to play guitar.
  15. Being married to my best friend.
  16. The best friend I’m married to can cook.
  17. Same person who can cook can clean the house.
  18. The best friend who can cook and clean the house is also a great dad.
  19. Officially owning a piano.
  20. Finding a good piano teacher for the kids.
  21. My middlechild’s focus on her craft.
  22. My little boy’s focus on his craft.
  23. Being part of a WAHMderful community of mommies.
  24. Connectivity, however slow sometimes.
  25. A fully automatic washing machine.
  26. My blog surviving a heart attack.
  27. A loving sister who’s devoted to my children.
  28. Homeschooling.
  29. Having a cyber social life.
  30. Roof over our heads.
  31. Three square meals daily.
  32. Kids not getting sick.
  33. The ability to laugh at my mistakes.
  34. My kidney hanging on.
  35. My mother’s devotion.
  36. People who follow me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.
  37. Friends from long ago who still text me twice a year, on my birthday and on Christmas Day.
  38. Common sense.
  39. Music.
  40. Fitting into my daughter’s rubber shoes.
  41. Denims that are seven years old and still serving me well.
  42. No allergies.
  43. Clean water.
  44. Trees.
  45. Sense of humor.

There’s still a lot coming in that should be on the list, but for today, let’s stop at 45.

Thank you, Lord, for today, and all the days yet to come.

 

Jollibee Padala: Making Ordinary Days Extra-Ordinary

Jollibee Padala: Making Ordinary Days Extra-Ordinary

Ever heard of Jollibee Padala?

I first heard of them last month.  There was a phone call, which, sadly, didn’t end well, because either I have paranoia in my genes, or just being too careful.  With all the cellphone scams going around, I think it makes sense to be wary at all times.

Just look at this text message I received late last year.

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Secret code, really?  Sorry, dude!  I’m just not that gullible.

So when some guy called asking for my home address, it just didn’t fly.

You be the judge.  If you were me, what would you have done?  How would you have handled the call?  Below is the actual conversation in Tagalog, which I translated to English

Caller: May I speak with Mrs. Marge Aberásturi?
Me: Yes, this is Marge.
Caller: Ma’am, good morning. I have something for you from Jollibee padala. Can I confirm your address?
Me: Ok, go ahead. [Waiting for him to give me something I can actually confirm]
Caller: Ma’am, what’s your complete address?
Me: Please check your record. Please tell me what you have and I’ll confirm.
Caller: I need to know your complete address.
Me: So tell me what you have there, and I’ll confirm if it’s correct.
Caller: I just need to confirm your address, Ma’am.
Me:  Listen, you called me. I have no idea how you got my number. Now you want me to tell you my address.  Not gonna happen.  You tell me what you know is my address, and I’ll tell you if what you have is correct
Caller: Okay.  So do you know anyone from abroad?
Me: Yes..
Caller: Can you give me names at random?
Me: Oh dear, sorry.  Not gonna happen.
[I switched off the phone.]

A week later, there was another call:

MyBrother:  Baby, has Jollibee delivered? I saw their advert on TFC (The Filipino Channel) and I just thought I’d try.  I would have preferred Shakey’s, but your area is not in their list, so I settled for Jollibee.  I wanted to suprise the kids, but I’m wondering why it’s been a week and you have not acknowledged or mentioned it. When I check online, I see the status as on hold.

Boom!

I have made peace with myself that I have just carelessly forfeited my chance to have free chicken joys, and promised the kids that we can still have spaghetti and sundae on my payday.  My brother, on the other hand, was like, “Oh, it’s a small amount.  I just tested the service anyway.

So we have forgotten about it.

And then early this month, I received another call.  This time, it’s a feminine voice on the other end, and she asked the right questions.  Like, “We just want to know if there is a landmark near you.  And is this alternate number, +63 9xx xxx xxxx, that was provided still active?  What is your relationship with _____?  What is the nearest Jollibee branch that you know of?”  I was just happy to confirm with her all the information that I know she has.

It was late in the afternoon, and the lady said they can deliver within the hour after we terminate the call.  Apparently, the call was coming from their main office in Manila, and they dispatch deliveries based on the customer’s location.  While we were still on the call, she was checking which among the branches near us is a delivery branch.  After she was able to identify which branch to send our package from, she told me that we would receive it within the hour.

But realizing that it was late, and my sister was arriving from Manila to spend the weekend with us the next day, I requested that the package be delivered the following day instead, in time for lunch, so that my sister could also partake of the blessing.

I really appreciate the fact that Jollibee still pulled through despite the long time that elapsed.  And that they were really prompt after all the initial hassle.  By the way, my brother mentioned that Jollibee was supposed to make the call within 24 hours after his card was charged.  Which I believe they did.  It’s just that the one who made the call was not properly trained in the verification process.

If Jollibee can address that particular kink in the process, I think this service is really a great idea.  Even Shakey’s, according to my brother, offers this.  With different providers to choose from, family members abroad can easily send loved ones a treat on special occasions.   Or maybe even on ordinary days.  After all, we don’t need to wait for a special occasion to celebrate, do we?

Here’s our treat all the way from California.

Jollibee Padala

How to Successfully Kill a Website

How to Successfully Kill a Website

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That is not so cool!

But, yeah, I did it.  And to be blogging about it is just my way of saying, “I promise to blog more, if you will just stay alive!”

Earlier this evening, or make that yesterday evening, since we’ve crossed midnight now, I had this on my Facebook Page.

Do you know of a sure-fire way of killing a site?
Don’t update! Even when WordPress tells you there is a new version available, don’t update.
That way, you don’t need to create a back up.
Because you need to back up your files before you do anything, right?
So you just conveniently forget about it.
And your site remains at the original version you created it with, which was 3.5. Or was it 3.2?
And that’s okay. Your site is working fine without the update.
And then watch 3.6, 3.7, 3.8 and 3.9 go by.
Still, you don’t update.
And here comes 3.9.1.
And someone has kindheartedly created a back up for you.
So you think, oh, it’s ok to update now.
While you are busy printing homeschool exercises and editing an article, you had the urge to update.
And so you happily click on the update button.
But because you are pre-occupied with something else, you forget to deactivate all your plugins first, which is another requisite before you update.
So you give your site a heart attack by letting it sit with 3.2 for a loooong time, then update to 3.9.1, skipping all the other versions, with all the plugins running, and no idea whether any one of those may not be compatible with the update.
THAT is the process of successfully killing a site.
And THAT’s exactly what I did.
Share this if you know of anyone in danger of committing this crime.
Save someone the anguish I’m feeling right now.

Fortunately for me, I have partner who’s a WordPress ninja, and she amazingly revived my dead site.

And I… I almost died of heartache, too.  But I had faith.  To the One up there, and to The Techie Mom.

The only thing that makes me sad now is that I lost all my social media leverage.  Zero tweets and Facebook likes.  But hey, who knows?  They might be restored, too.  If not, well, please go ahead and start clicking those icons below each of the posts.  🙂

Do you have questions, comments or feedback about this post?
Please leave me a message, or post them, at my Facebook Page.

Musings:  Blogging, Writing, And Showing Up

Musings: Blogging, Writing, And Showing Up

It’s Sunday morning, and I have the place to myself.  We’re spending the weekend at Peninsula de Punta Fuego.  Husband and kids have gone to the beach, while I opted to stay back and have my me-time.   It’s our third year here, and I feel like I’ve seen everything there is to see, plus I’m really very tired I have no energy to battle the heat outside, so I opened my laptop to try if I can verbalize the myriad of emotions that I’m feeling about this blog, particularly about my failure to live up to my promise [to myself] that I will keep this blog updated this year.

There’s a long list of events that I want to write about, but I can’t seem to find the groove to start.  There’s our vacation time in Baguio; then my Nanay’s 75th birthday celebration; then our first Boracay trip; my brother’s 50th birthday celebration; bonding time with my nephews; a reunion with colleagues from my corporate life; Mother’s Day and how I feel about it, really; our third run of the WordPress Workshop; my 8th anniversary as a work-at-home mom, which by the way, I quietly celebrated by giving birth to a new baby, www.startupwahm.com; and finally, yesterday’s third run of the Real Ways to be a WAHM Workshop.

That’s a long list, and a nice one to have.  At least I can’t claim that my reason for not updating my blog is due to lack of topics to write about.  I think I’m just lazy.

Or afraid.

Or insecure.

Or both.

But that’s just about my blogging.

I’m the person who always takes the bull by the horn.  I approach life always with positivity.  I see opportunity in every challenge.  And for each door that closes, I always know that a window will open.  As I was telling someone last night, when that one door closed on me back in 2006, God opened a window.  And not just an ordinary window.  It was a French one.

Lately, I’ve been feeling restless.  I want to write.  Not just blog, but write.  Not just an article, but a book. My concern is the time.  I know that should I ever start to write, I have to give it time.  But time is extra precious these days.  Being the breadwinner in a single-income household means I have to really prioritize revenue-generating activities, and that leaves me no room for being whimsical.

I berate myself for being so ambitious about writing, when I can’t even keep my blog updated.  I have eyes green with envy when I see blogger friends announce their latest blog posts, and I head over to their sites and read, and feel the envy increase two-fold because they have such pretty pictures to go with the posts.

So now I question my real reason for the un-updated blog.  Is it the scarcity of time, or is it my insecurity?

Insecurity that I can’t write sensibly?  I know I can, yeah?  Insecurity that I can’t put out great pictures to go with my post?  Hmmm… now, that’s a thought.  Are pictures really necessary?  Well, I know they’re great to have, but I think I won’t get shot down if I ever post something without an accompanying photo.  Or will you?  Nah.  I don’t think so.  I know you can be forgive me if I post this one without a photo.

So maybe it’s really the time.

And how much time do I really need to write a blog post?  Timestamp tells me I’ve been on this screen for the past 8 minutes.  But I know that it will take me a little bit more to give this post a title, a description, and add some links.  I’m still considering whether or not I should post this without a photo. So maybe it’s safe to say an average of 30 minutes will suffice?

So it’s not really the time, either.  And the one reason that’s left is that I’m too lazy to even show up.  And that’s not good.  Not good at all.

Woody Allen said this:

Eighty percent of success is showing up.

And then there’s Chuck Close:

Inspiration is for amateurs – the rest of us just show up and get to work.

You won’t believe how many times in a week would I find myself thinking of something that I want to write about.  I would be brushing my teeth, taking a shower, sorting the laundry or cleaning the windows, and a thought will hit me and I will have a few paragraphs written in my mind.  And then I would think about logging in and writing a post, followed promptly by one reason or another to put it off for an hour, and that one hour will become a day, then a week, until the idea completely dies down.

So yes, I totally fail to even show up.  I’m lazy.

I know this is not yet the time for me to sit down and write, but as always, my heart is full of hope that one day, I can make that dream a reality.

For now, I just need to show up.  Even just for this blog.

Photo Credit:  simplereminders.com

Photo Credit: simplereminders.com

 

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